I have read this article from a local newspaper when i was
still in high school that was prolly 2005, i am just not sure. I cut it out of
the paper and placed it in my scrapbook which i couldn't find until now. But
ever since that day i laid my eyes on this article it never left my mind. It
became a permanent resident of my preoccupied brain. The gist of it directed my
life. It played a big part of who i am right now. So to whoever wrote this one,
i am forever grateful and indebted to your awesome mentality.
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This article is for my friends who need to realize that life
must go on and change can be good.
I don't intend to look like a ray of sunshine here, but we
can't deny that life is tough enough.
Whether it be a painful memory, a broken relationship,
someone who broke your heart or someone who passed away, we all have to move
on. Dwelling on the past and seeking happiness in things you can never retrieve
are not good and may be two of the worst things you could do to yourself.
It’s important to stop bawling and grieving over the
past---that's a good sign of moving on. This doesn't necessarily mean that you
deny or reject you past. Your past it is still part of you and it makes you who
you are. Part of letting go is simply accepting and admitting to yourself that
the past is over---it's finished, done and complete. Realize that there is
nothing left for you to cling and hold on to except all those wonderful
memories.
Life is all about making memories. You can't make more
memories if you live a stagnant life where you are mired in what isn't there
anymore. Urge yourself to embrace the future---to look ahead, not behind; to
live again and to create new memories. Know that everything that has happened
to you in the past, everything you have gone through, is important, but it is
more important for you to move forward and grow into all that you are capable
of becoming, growing to be the best you can be.
It may take a great amount of time before you start going on
again. And then there is, of course, the terrible pain, the anger, the false
hopes, the discouragements and denials, the humiliation and the disappointments
you have to undergo before moving on. but what matters is that through
everything you never give up always get a grip, and keep that little spot in
your head that keeps on blinking and telling you that sooner or later you will
have to move on.
Know that letting go can't be forced. It must come easily.
You must be honest to yourself in saying that you are actually prepared to let
go, and it will happen. Do not try to obsessively try to manipulate and control
your future. It just won't work.
When faced with terrible pain, you must reopen your heart
and mind again, for sometimes we slam the door to happiness. You will have to
then try to think about what has happened, remember all the memories and filter
them, keeping the ones that will genuinely make you feel better and make you
want to move on. Then there is the most essential thing of life that we all
must never forget---love. You will have to learn to love again. But before
trying to love anything or anyone else, you must remember how it is to love
yourself again.
Where there is pain, you must learn to forgive. Forgive the
one who has hurt you and forgive yourself for whatever mistakes you may have
made and whatever guilt you keep inside you. And after all this, you go on and
start creating new relationships.
This process may seem to be extremely difficult, even scary
to some. But life no matter how stark it may appear, promises changes. New
things are always so much more that offers. Embrace it! Help yourself, and when
it all seems to be too hard to manage, there will always be someone there to
help out.
Don’t be ever be afraid to ask for help. And when you're all
alone there are also a lot of things that will help you move on. For one, there
is always reflection. Make your mind work a little and look at life at a grander
scale and you will definitely see that life can make you smile sometimes. When
you reflect, you can also try and see what you can save in your life. Set your
goals and set about trying to achieve them. Try looking at the mirror because
it just might help. You just might see how much of a mess you've made of
yourself. Not eating (or over-eating), crying gallons of tears a day, and
decaying in bed, do not make a pretty picture. You might even laugh at
yourself, and that's good, at least you smiled somewhere in between your
sorrows. But whatever you decide to do, never forget to pray. Prayers will
always help, and more.
To end this article, i would like to give a quote from John
Henry Newman, who writes: "to live is to change, and to perfect life is to
have changed often." move on, grow and make new memories; there is so much
that lies ahead of you, and as my friend once told me, "Milk life for all
it's worth."
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